How Would You Tell Your Spouse??

Hi,
Recently my husband told me that he was watching porn and found some dominatrix type stuff and said he be very turned on by it. I be like ok but consequently he says he desires me to be like that. I am adjectives up for new things and i did try it near him but its just not my entity. I don't understand the happiness one gets from individual humiliated, whipped, gag etc.
I love my husband dearly and i would hate to hurt his vibrations but how do i tell him i'm not interested within engaging surrounded by his sexual fantasies without wrecking our sex existence?
Normally i wouldn't mind but he wants me to use his mouth as an ashtray when i smoke and wishes me to put on a dirty pair of shoes so he can lick them verbs, and all this of late grosses me out and i've been doing it to make somebody`s day him but it does nothing for me at adjectives and i just want to be capable of tell him surrounded by a nice way that doesn't upset or close the door for new things latter.
Any Ideas on what i can do here? Sweetheart, one of the golden rules in every relationship is that you with the sole purpose do sexually what both of you enjoy doing, not one of you but both of you.
This dominatrix scenario you apparently find distasteful (I must admit I would not do it either) so accordingly you must tell him it turns you stale and you do not wish to rivet in it, he will appreciate your honesty a bit than letting him think you similar to doing it.
Tell him you love him and enjoy making love him but this is a step to far, and you don`t close to it
Maybe think of some planning of your own. His sound pretty gross.